There is an unspoken tension between my parents and I in my Indian household as Australia’s postal vote on legalising same-sex marriage is delivered into our mailbox. While it is fairly recent, 1 year ago, since my parents have openly acknowledged my identity as a gay Indian woman, we have made a lot of progress … Continue reading How is the marriage equality debate affecting you as an Ethnic LGBT+ Australian?
In the expression of culture, language is a fundamental aspect. It is the tool that conveys traditions and values related to group identity. At the intersection of cultural and sexual identity, language becomes even more important. How we express and define ourselves shapes the way others engage with us and how we understand ourself. How then do diverse communities want to be identified?
I am often asked, 'Where are you from?' or 'Where are you originally from?'. With my brown skin, black hair, brown eyes and Australian-South African accent, many people are curious of my origin. How do I simply reply with one country or nation when I am 5th generation Indian South African, spent my childhood growing up in Durban, lived Indian culture in my home, lived my adolescence in rural Australia, my young adult life in Brisbane, Sydney and Melbourne.
‘Coming out tends to be a really narrow way of looking at sexuality and thinking about coming into your sexuality. It tends to be a very dominant Western perspective. Inviting people in into your life reframes thinking. It is about feeling good about who you are, what you do and how you identify and how … Continue reading Coming out or inviting people in?
I recently had the pleasure of sharing my story with OPIA Australia - a podcast sharing stories of women in healthy same-sex relationships. With so many negative lesbian relationships being portrayed on the television and in the news, this resource is a beacon of light, inspiring others about what it means to be in a … Continue reading New podcast OPIA
What to do when relatives continue to ask you, 'But when are you going to get married?!'. A practical thought guide.