Hi there. This is my story, and it is intertwined with my personal struggle with mental health issues. I am in my middle twenties, come from a socially-conservative family in the countryside in South America and have come out to my parents less than a year ago. They had no idea and sometimes might struggle … Continue reading “It does get better” – a story of courage by a young South American man
In the expression of culture, language is a fundamental aspect. It is the tool that conveys traditions and values related to group identity. At the intersection of cultural and sexual identity, language becomes even more important. How we express and define ourselves shapes the way others engage with us and how we understand ourself. How then do diverse communities want to be identified?
I am often asked, 'Where are you from?' or 'Where are you originally from?'. With my brown skin, black hair, brown eyes and Australian-South African accent, many people are curious of my origin. How do I simply reply with one country or nation when I am 5th generation Indian South African, spent my childhood growing up in Durban, lived Indian culture in my home, lived my adolescence in rural Australia, my young adult life in Brisbane, Sydney and Melbourne.
‘Coming out tends to be a really narrow way of looking at sexuality and thinking about coming into your sexuality. It tends to be a very dominant Western perspective. Inviting people in into your life reframes thinking. It is about feeling good about who you are, what you do and how you identify and how … Continue reading Coming out or inviting people in?
I recently had the pleasure of sharing my story with OPIA Australia - a podcast sharing stories of women in healthy same-sex relationships. With so many negative lesbian relationships being portrayed on the television and in the news, this resource is a beacon of light, inspiring others about what it means to be in a … Continue reading New podcast OPIA
What was your main concern about telling your parents? Was their reaction as you expected - and what was that? Do your parents think it’s a phase? Do they expect that you will still marry? How does being LGBTIQ affect your cultural identity? Has the relationship changed between you and your family, if so for better or worse? If it went bad initially, have you tried to build bridges and was it successful? Did you have resources or another family member with you, when telling family? Do you feel able to now talk to family about your life and friends? What tips would you give to others from your culture who are beginning their journey? What do you need your family to understand? Submit now. Have your say! https://ethniclgbt.wordpress.com/2017/05/19/10-questions-we-want-to-ask-ethnic-lgbt-people/
This morning Ethnic LGBT+ had the honour of sitting down with Shelley Argent, National Spokesperson for PFLAG Australia, to work on reaching Ethnic LGBT+ to encourage them to share their stories. We talked about the challenges faced by those in the LGBT+ space and how together we can support each other in this journey. We came up with 10 questions that we will be asking people in this space, please feel free to respond to these questions in the contact page of this website.
What to do when relatives continue to ask you, 'But when are you going to get married?!'. A practical thought guide.
I tried coming out to my parents in person at age 17 and 22. Both times were inexplicably hard. Not allowing either of us the time and space to fully process what was being said and unsaid. Writing my parents a letter of understanding was the best route for us as a family. It gave … Continue reading My coming out letter